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This goes out to a midwestern Doctor and all the Dirty Dozen...

“For every thousand hacking at the branches of evil , only one attacks the roots”

~ Henry Thoreau

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It is not death that a man should fear, but he should fear never beginning to live.

— Marcus Aurelius, 2nd century Roman emperor

“Everyone is afraid of death, regardless of their culture, religion, or country of origin,” said Kelvin Chin, author of “Overcoming the Fear of Death” and founder of the Overcoming the Fear of Death Foundation and the nonprofit organization turningwithin.org. “Fear is simply an emotion caused by the anticipation of unhappiness.” The link contains Kelvin's personal story: “How I began helping others with death and their dying process…”

https://www.overcomingthefearofdeath.org/founder

Research shows that accepting death is essential for living life to the fullest (Blomstrom); however, in the Western world, many of us are socialized to avoid discussing or even thinking about death, leading many to suffer from death anxiety and fear of this inevitable event. Death is part of life. Many of us would like to ignore that fact, but sooner or later we cannot. When we lose a friend, a family member, or a beloved pet, we cannot avoid thinking about our own mortality. According to one study, 20% of people are afraid or very afraid of dying, making thanatophobia one of the most common fears. The idea of ​​a long and debilitating illness that causes pain and makes us lose our dignity. The fear of leaving loved ones behind. The fear of the unknown or of a lack of control.

The fear The fear of death can affect people who are anxious or depressed, have low self-esteem and a fighting spirit, or who are dealing with unresolved anxieties, psychologically or physically.

People close to elderly people or those with terminal illnesses may also develop a fear of death more frequently.

Furthermore, the fear of death can bring to the surface many other fears, such as: the fear of pain, of darkness, of the unknown, of suffering, of nothingness… Feelings that imagination, traditions, and stories have passed down from parents to children, causing us to torment ourselves and preventing us from enjoying life.

When fear has not yet become a phobia and is simply a reactive, non-disabling, or non-conditioning thought, some strategies for controlling it are:

1) Accept the idea. Death exists, and you cannot change that; but you can change what you do until that moment.

2) Believe firmly in something. Regardless of whether it's true or not, faith often has great transformative power.

3) Shift your focus elsewhere; don't allow your consciousness to dwell on this fear or thought. You can do this mentally by planning what you're going to do the next day, or behaviorally, for example, by calling your spouse to ask how your day is going.

4) Dissolve your fear of death through meditation or mindfulness. In the links...---

https://yogainternational.com/article/view/dissolving-our-fear-of-death-through-meditation/ .---

https://www.psychalive.org/sweet-spot-relief-fear-death-mindfulness/ .---

https://positivepsychology.com/maranasati-meditation/ .---

https://uktherapyguide.com/overcoming-fear-of-death .--

https://www.hims.com/blog/death-anxiety .--

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